In the midst of the
high-tech world things are constantly changing and close friendships are hard
to keep. I have 357 followers on Instagram and over 500 Facebook friends, but I
can only think of a few friends that I would really want to call in a time of
need.
If you’re like me, then their's only a few people that you would really consider your “close”
friends. With people moving, getting married, and growing up; friendships
aren’t easy to start or to maintain. I’ve come up with a collection of things that I have learned
over the years. Hopefully, these tips will help you create lasting friendships
as well! “Two are
better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If
one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has
no one to help him up!” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)
- Make an effort. Nothing can replace seeing people in person. Go to the wedding, go to the party or shower, enjoy the movie, make the date for lunch, and stop by someone’s apartment. You will be thankful you took the time to do it when it’s over. Friendships are good for you!
- Stay true to yourself. In college and even in the workforce, everyone is trying to fit in and conform to those around them. Dare to be different. It is impossible to have a real relationship if you are pretending to be something that you aren’t. I guarantee people will love you just the way you are.
- Don’t expect too much. People are busy. They have their own lives with a busy schedule that has little room for additions. Don’t feel rejected if you ask someone to hangout and it doesn’t fit his or her schedule.
- Be vulnerable. Nobody wants to sit around and talk to a brick wall. If you want to have meaningful relationships, being vulnerable is key. Open your heart. Open your mind. Express yourself.
- Let go of the past. Whether you like it or not, some of your friends will break your heart. They will make decisions you don’t agree with and friendships may fall apart, but don’t let the outcome of one friendship change your attitude on all friendships. Let go of the past and put yourself out there. In order to have good friends, you have to weed out the bad ones.
- Admit your mistakes. If something is your fault, fess up! Be mature enough to admit your faults and take responsibility. Ask forgiveness when it is needed. Others will respect you and love you through your faults when you are brave enough to admit them.
- Love like God loves. God loved us enough to send His one and only son to die on the cross for us. That’s a love that can’t be put into words. Love others the way He loves you and He will guide your friendships.
